The not so simple art of Love

Over the last few months I have been thinking a lot about love. What it means, how it would feel... but how do you know when you have found it? Do you just KNOW? Is it something you fight because it's new and scary? Or is it so natural and so right that you just go with it? You just take a chance because despite knowing that taking a chance is a huge risk of losing so much, not taking that chance is an even bigger risk? Love has the potential to be the biggest source of happiness for each and every one of us, but if our perception of love is wrong, if it's only one sided... is that really love? Is it possible to love someone who doesn't love you back? And how much effort should it really take? I mean it should be equal amounts but how hard is too hard? This is what I have come up with so far:

You know it's love when that person makes you feel like home. Incomparable, safe and where you belong. They're your first and last thought every day... And they fill your thoughts at all the times in between. They're the one who is on your side, even when you're wrong. They protect you when you are too tired to fight for yourself. The one you can trust with your deepest thoughts, emotions, dreams and fears. They don't judge you and they validate your feelings, even the irrational ones. They challenge you to do better, to be better.

When the going gets tough and you think giving up is the only answer. When you put your walls up and push everyone away, they are the person who see's straight through this act... this game. They see the real you. The hurt, pain and fear that it takes to make you feel and act like you need this person in your life so bad that your only option is to push them away. They see your fighting hands and know it doesn't represent a fighting heart. They know it's self preservation. Protection from a vulnerability of reliance on another soul. Sometimes you just need to push the limits. To see how much a heart can take before it breaks. Sometimes you just need to make mistakes, and no matter what, that person that loves you is right there with you. Making their own mistakes and helping you survive your mistakes. Deafening silences and angry words that betray your true feelings and sting on delivery are never held against you. Scores are not kept, jealousy is kept at a healthy level and no one is put on a pedestal. There is equality and value. There is nothing an apology can't fix... almost nothing.

They let you escape reality to your world of fantasy and disillusion and they share that same world, right there beside you. When you think the world has given up on you, they hold your hand tight and remind you why the lows are worth it. They share the joy of your highs and support your crazy ideas. They are proud of you and want the whole world to know that they are the luckiest person in the world to have you. They are the one who always has the time to tell you how special you are. No matter how hard their day has been they can always give you a cuddle, a smile and kind words. When darkness has filled your world, when you can no longer see the light at the end of the tunnel, they are the one who lights it for you.

They understand... They get it... They get you...

That's when you know.

Jessie

Kadison

To all of the Angel Babies, gone too soon.

I wanted you so much. I have always wanted you. I was so excited when I discovered you were on the way. Yes, I was shocked and surprised, you were our miracle baby and I loved you instantly, more than life itself. I thought this was it, this was the start of something beautiful, the beginning of our life together. I never expected anything to go wrong...

I had all of the symptoms; morning sickness that lasted all day, sore breasts, and I felt so very tired. I didn't mind though because you would have been worth it. You were worth it. You ARE worth it. I would have done anything to keep you and I would do anything to have you back.

I will never understand why you didn't stay with me. You were all I thought about, I had such hopes and dreams for you. I just knew you would have been perfect. Ever since I was a little girl, I wanted to be a mother. I had waited a long time to have my dream fulfilled and now it would be... or so I thought so then.

I feel so empty and alone since you left me.. left us. And even though you were only a part of my life for a very short time, I will never forget you. I never thought it was possible to feel such a love and longing for someone. Your daddy and I created you, a sweet, innocent little life. A piece of each of us, made with love, a precious gift but not ours to keep. It hurts so much to know I will never hold you, never see you smile, never hear you giggle. It doesn't seem right when I wanted you more than anything in the world.

I know I have to let you go to fly free with all the other Angel Babies, but it's so hard to do... I know you would have stayed if you could. You were such a fighter, you fought to exist and you fought to stay but it wasn't to be. It wasn't your fault, it wasn't my fault and it wasn't your daddy's fault. You just couldn't stay. But even though you aren't here, you are always with us. Three hearts beating as one. Your daddy's and my heart beat to the same rhythm, in time with yours, our Angel Baby. Today, tomorrow and for always. No matter what happens we will always share our love for you.

I miss you. I miss your daddy talking to you through my tummy. I miss knowing you were there, but most of all I miss the life that we would have had with you. All of the milestones, the good times, the bad times. We would never have the chance to teach you to crawl or watch you take your first step. Your first tooth, your first day at school, first love and heartbreak... I wonder what your first word would have been? What you would be like, would you want to play sport or a musical instrument? What would your dreams be made of? What would you aspire to be? This is the life we will never know with you. The life we could have had, the life we should have had... The life we were given a tiny glimpse of before it was taken away from us.

You would have been the centre of our world.


From all of the Mummy's and Daddy's without Babies.

Even Casey Stoner had to start somewhere...

Today I had my second motorcycle lesson. It was less comical than my first lesson, but still filled with confusion and Mark, my poor instructor, returning with more grey hair and a larger bald spot then he had at the beginning of the lesson...

Again, my lesson started at 7am. Again, I have an issue with this. I know I blamed peak hour traffic for my dislike of this hour but to be honest... I'm not a morning person. Who wants to get out of bed at 6am when the weather is starting to cool down? Who am I kidding? My dislike has nothing to do with the weather and everything to do with my love of sleep. Well, most of the time. Not so much when I have nightmares, but THEY are a whole other story!

This morning I woke to the nasty sound of my phone alarm blaring out its vibration on my bedside table. After a mini heart attack and turning my much hated phone off. (It's a love / hate relationship.) I heard the soothing sound of rain on the roof. I love the sound of rain, normally. When I'm not about to jump on a motorcycle in the middle of peak hour traffic. The other problem I have with the rain today is that I risked my life on Saturday to buy myself my very own motorcycle jacket that was now set to get wet. I say I risked my life because I managed to interupt some kind of bikie gang meeting when I walked into the shop. Well, I have no proof it was a "gang" or "meeting" but when a bunch of guys (I am debating the sex of 2 of them) all stop talking and get up from their table when I walk into the shop... I am left assuming the most exciting and scary option.

My first instinct was to turn around and run but I feared this would be too obvious and they would kill me. I'm sure they can make it look like an accident or maybe I would never be found... So I went with my second option, the innocent "I'm new to this whole bike thing" approach. I guess it worked, they were all lovely and I survived. I had a really sweet mail order bride help me pick the best jacket ever! I'm actually considering joining their gang, I mean they did give me a stubbie cooler!

So, I have my jacket with it's detachable raincoat part that I refused to wear because I didn't want to get it wet. I actually chose to wear a dirty, stinky, borrowed jacket over getting mine wet.... I have serious problems! But my jacket is still clean, new and more importantly, DRY!

Mark, my instructor was late again today. I was a bit more flexible when I realised the poor guy rides for 2.5 hours to get to work. How do I know this? Mark talks A LOT!! Not necessarily about motorbikes either. I know more about his girlfriend than I care to remember. I'm fairly sure he shouldn't be encouraging her to fall asleep on the back of his bike while they are riding. Maybe it's just me but it doesn't sound safe or something I should hear about. I'm still a bit unsure of Mark and I think he feels the same about me. I swear he walked in this morning, saw it was me again and tried to pull a sickie. I'm pretty sure I heard him sigh and mutter a prayer under his breath. Bless his cotton socks!

So today was all about getting me on the road, on the bike, in traffic... With real cars, buses, trucks and the loonies driving them. I was off to a great start. I did the safety check on the bike with Mark constantly narrating over the top of me, this time both bikes seemed to be ok. I am cautious of using the word "safe" because... how the hell am I suppose to know if it's safe? I can almost guarantee it won't be safe the second I get on it! We headed off to a quiet estate area off the back of base. I managed to get all the way to the end of the driveway and turn onto the road before I stalled the bike. I think that's a record, the longest for me before stalling and the shortest for any other student. Mark must be SO proud!

Mark gave me some instructions before we left saying he would give me all my instructions via hand signals and when we came to a round-a-bout or intersection, he would make sure it was safe for both of us to go through together. At the first intersection we came to, I realised Mark is either a liar or he wanted me dead. I some how managed to stop, I'm not exactly sure how because he hadn't taught me how to use the front brake, and the back brake... well, to be frank, is BLOODY USELESS!! I managed to keep it together fairly well until I had a car following right on my bum. Why would you do that? I am wearing a giant "L" on a fluro yellow vest, you can't miss me. Unfortuantely this means you literally can't miss me when you aim your car at me! So, this guy decides he is going to bully me and try and scare me. Little did he know I was scared before I even knew he was there. This of course was a perfect distraction to make me nervous and concentrate on what I was doing... Unfortuantely for me and the car behind me, and to the embarressment of Mark, when I think about riding, I suck at it. So, of course I came upto a round-a-bout with said car on my back wheel and I stall the bike. I was very classy duck waddling the bike off the road because the nasty piece of work got stuck in neutral and no amount of rocking and releasing the clutch would budge it. I'm sure Mark considers me his biggest challenge.

After that incident I managed to ride around for about an hour without any major mistakes so, of course this means it's time to teach me how to use the front brake. (I don't understand Mark's logic, but, hey, he's the expert!) After a few attempts I had the braking sorted, now I don't need to stall the bike to stop it, this can only be a good thing for all involved. Because I was so awesome at braking, Mark decided we would go out into heavy traffic on the main roads in the area. I am a cautious rider, I prefer to go slow - which is actually the speed limit, Mark prefers to go as fast as he can and it's up to me to keep up, even if it means speeding. That was his instruction. He kept giving me the hand signal to speed up, I was already doing 60 in a road work 40 zone, so I gave him my own hand signal involving my middle finger. I then had a car cut me off and a truck try and bully me out of my lane. I shouldn't say try, because he did. I was happy to let him in, he could have my lane and as many other lanes as he wanted. I guess Mark would call that Karma.

Then, because I'm sure Mark has set this whole thing up - no one can have this many obstacles in one day, surely? A dog runs out on the road infront of both of us. I saw it coming and slowed down, Mark saw it and sped up! We ended up having an argument over this because in his opinion the faster you go, the smoother the bump over the dog. I was more going for the obstacle avoidance approach where nobody and nothing dies or gets hurt. I only had one more incident where the bike got stuck in neutral... at a round-a-bout... in road works... infront of a bunch of workmen... Mark had left me for dead, I'm sure he was praying I would be killed so he wouldn't have to be tortured by my inability to get the bike started. But to my surprise (and Mark's and all the workmen) I managed to get it out of neutral, into first gear, get moving and avoid having or causing any collision without stalling and without help!

It was time to head back to base, so Mark decided we were going to go the long way. Telling him I was exhausted, my hands were numb (not to mention my bum) and my feet and hands were getting confused wasn't enough for him to let us just go straight back to base. Being unable to get the indicators off because of my numb hands resulted in him telling me to "relax". I needed to suck it up and go the scenic route back to base. This involved a little bit of rain, not heaps, which I'm thankful for because I didn't bring a squeedgee for my helmet. I did however leave my visor up because I love the feel of the wind on my skin... This can only mean that Mark will make me ride through dusty gravel in an area which would be better called a nature corridor than a road. I had bugs land in my hair and eyes. Luckily my mouth was clenched closed the whole time. I can't imagine vomiting in ones helmet would be an appealing way to end a ride.

We finally made it back to base and we finished up with some paperwork. In Mark's opinion I will be competent with two more lessons. I think maybe he thinks doing any more lessons will be pushing his luck at remaining sane or having a clean record of never having a student killed under his supervision. There must be a motive... surely I shouldn't be set loose on the roads with a motorcycle yet? I guess time will tell! Mark justifies giving me my licence in two more lessons by telling me I won't be the next Stoner or Rossi... but what does he know?!?!


Jessie

Matters of the Heart

It's a huge risk to allow someone to be the guardian of your heart.... your secrets, your love. Every moment of time, every thought, every action can be thrown away in the blink of an eye. Loving someone is giving them the power to destroy you and trusting them not to. That's an amazing power and the most sacred gift anyone can give...

It doesn't interest me what you do for a living.

I want to know what you ache for and if you dream of meeting your hearts longing.

It doesn't interest me how old you are.

I want to know if you will risk looking like a fool,

For love...

For your dream...

For the adventure of being alive.

It doesn't interest me what planets are squaring your moon.

I want to know if you have touched the centre of your own sorrow.

If you have been opened by life's betrayals or have become shriveled and closed from fear of further pain.

I want to know if you can sit with pain.

Mine or your own, without moving to hide it or fade it or fix it.

I want to know if you can be with joy.

If you can dance with the wilderness and let the ecstacy fill you to the tips of your fingers and toes without cautioning us to be careful, to be realistic, to remember the limitations of being human.

It doesn't interest me if the story you are telling is true.

I want to know if you can disappoint another to be true to yourself.

If you can bare the accusations of betrayal and not betray your own soul.

If you can be faithless and therefore trustworthy.

I want to know if you can see beauty even when it is not pretty.

And if you can source your own life from it's presence.

I want to know if you can live with failure, yours and mine.

And still stand at the edge of the lake and shout to the silver of the moon "YES!"

It doesn't interest me to know where you live or how much money you have.

I want to know if you can get up after the night of grief and despair, weary and bruised to the bone and do what needs to be done to feed the children.

It doesn't interest me who you know or how you came to be here.

I want to know if you will stand in the centre of the fire with me and not shrink back.

It doesn't interest me where or what or with who you have studied.

I want to know what sustains you from the inside when all else falls away.

I want to know if you can be alone with yourself and if you truly like the company you keep in the empty moments.

The Invitation - Oriah Mountaindreamer.

"Pride ain't nothing when it comes to matters of the heart."


Jessie

If you find yourself in Hell, keep walking before the Devil realises you were there.

This blog is dedicated to all the people who have stopped looking for the light switch in the dark room they call their world.

Depression.

What does it mean? A word shrouded in opinions. Professional opinions, judgemental opinions, uneducated opinions, qualified opinions and the numb opinions of those who live it every single day. I have thought about this word, this condition, and what it means... What is a simple definition? Something everyone can relate to? Is there such a thing? Probably not, but here is my attempt:

"Depression is the inability to construct a future. It is anger without enthusiasm. It is darkness. It is pain. It is loneliness."

I need to point out here that I am no expert on Depression or Mental Illness of any description. This is just my interpretation of what I have observed, heard and felt. I am merely telling my story:

My generation has had no Great War, no Great Depression. Our war is spiritual. Our depression is our lives. Our lives are never enough. There is always more, always a hole that needs to be filled. Everything we sought to make us happy, everything we thought would make us complete always made room for a new hole. We are never complete. We are a puzzle with missing pieces.

We are male and female. We are artists, athletes, students, and business owners. We have depression, borderline personalities, bipolar disorder, or maybe no diagnosis at all. Some of us were abused, some were not. We are straight, bi, and gay. We come from all walks of life and can be any age. We are every single race or religion that you can possibly think of. Our common link is this: We are in pain. And we are not freaks.

For some of us, the thought and act of never being able to attain the unattainable is too much to bare. For others, waking up from a terrifying nightmare only to realise you were never asleep is the sickening reality of hitting rock bottom. And instead of seeing rock bottom as good solid ground, or a dead end as a place to turn around. It is seen as the end. A blockade from moving on, from finding happiness or wholeness... the loss of your chance to feel complete.

Some people say that suicide is an easy way out. It's for weak people, it's gutless and selfish. But in reality, it takes a lot of courage to stand up to God and say, "Screw you! You can't fire me, because I quit!" It takes strength to be able to harm yourself knowing that you will cause immense pain to those who love you... BUT, this is not how suicidal people think, well, not in my limited experience. Because in their minds, NO ONE loves them, no one cares, and there is no one to go to because most of the time, no one else exists in this world of self loath and hate. Ending this existence couldn't possibly impact anyone else. No one would even notice. Maybe the act of ending life, removing yourself from being a burden is a selfless act, or maybe it is done to end the all consuming pain. The pain that can only be known to someone that has felt it, lived it, lived WITH it. Because maybe, just maybe that's all that exists in this dark world. Not feelings, not other people, not ration, not freedom and certainly not hope. There is no difference between day and night other than the changing of the nightmares.

Some people are lucky, they have people close enough to notice the difference between a real smile and the smile of an actor. They intervene before the darkness is all consuming. But is there a cure? Is there a way out? Can you really stop the progression of something you can't see? Some people say medication helps, some people say a lifestyle changes help, some people say nothing helps... I know distancing yourself from these people makes them think you are "better", depression makes you a good liar. Is it lying if you do it to protect yourself or the person you are lying to? Is it lying if you say "I'm ok", because you don't know what's wrong? Is it wrong to not want to be put on medication? Being drugged beyond feeling anything, being unable to react or feel any emotion, struggling to stay awake and fighting dizziness while awake is suppose to be better... Maybe it is, but it's still not living. Maybe it just buys us time for our brains to heal.

Everyone is different, everyone feels things differently, different people have different triggers and everyone reacts differently. There is so little known about Mental Illness and so much stigma surrounds the subject that it is difficult for people to talk about it. It is common for sufferers to believe they are alone, that it is a state of mind, something to be ashamed of. But the truth is, it is real, an illness and it is more common than you think.

Everyone has the right to make their own decisions. You can't save someone who doesn't want to be saved, just like you can't fly with someone else's wings. Everyone has their own journey and their own story to create. Don't judge anyone until you have walked in their shoes....

Sometimes you need to run away just to see who will follow you.

Jessie

No Wing No Prayer... It was a Honda!

Today, I had my first motorcycle lesson. I barely slept last night because I was nervous and excited about how I would go... my first time in control of a bike. This is how it played out:

I arrived at 6.50am for a 7am start. I would like to point out here that this isn't ideal. If you want me to concentrate and avoid death from car drivers hell bent on using me as target practise, I suggest starting these lessons at a reasonable hour, like 10am. It's not that I have anything against car drivers, I mean, I am one of those people who drives around the city in a 4WD, a stereotypical "soccer mum" without the kids, school or soccer. But, to be fair, at this time of the morning you have peak hour traffic, which means you have people in cars, eating breakfast, doing their hair and make-up and of course the serial texting drivers. Add a learner motorcycle rider to the mix and you should have an ambulance on speed dial... Or maybe a chopper would be faster in that sort of traffic. My point is, I am not learning to ride a motorbike to become a "temporary citizen". I can think of much cheaper, less painful and guaranteed ways to meet the Coroner if that was my aim.

My instructor was late. Great start. I thought he must be so safety conscious that his motto is "it's better to arrive late than to never arrive at all". That was giving him the benefit of the doubt, in my mind, that was a comforting thought. But no, he had to go and ruin it by telling me he was waiting for a builder (who didn't arrive). Over the next four hours I heard all about the antics of the builder, the tiler, the tile shop, his girlfriend, the guy he took out for a ride yesterday who hit a dog, put a hole in his jacket, scratched his helmet and broke the mirror off the bike. Then I heard about the politics involved in his job... All of these added up in my mind to Strike One! Oh, and I did a little bit of riding. Maybe that's an exaggeration of what I did, but I was on a motorbike, it was turned on and I was controlling it.

Strike Two occured about 5 minutes into meeting Mark, my instructor. He decided to have a toilet break which had him returning with a rather large wet patch on the front of his jeans.... I don't know the story behind this, nor do I want to know, I think enough has been said on the matter. All I want to add is this, I can not unsee this, it has been burnt into my minds eye, forever. And from the gagging and vomiting in my mouth a little, I think we can confirm my inability to handle human excretment of any kind has not improved.

When we eventually got to the point of actually touching a motorcycle, I had to do a safety check on it... WTF do I know about a bike to make sure it's safe? It had tyres, a seat, lights, blinkers... So, I thought it best that I entrust Mark with his expert opinion on making sure the bike was in good working order. BIG MISTAKE! In Mark's opinion the bike was fine, safe, in good order, low on petrol, but suitable for what we were doing. This was AFTER I pointed out the brake light wasn't working consistantly. Never mind, he lubricated the front brake thingie (technical name) to fix it. I was horrified beyond the point of noticing the protective gear I was putting on smelt like homeless-man sweat. So, we jumped on the bike and took off to a local training area. Well, that was the plan. It turns out the bike wasn't fine, wasn't in good working order and definitely wasn't safe! Of course it couldn't be the brake, it was lubricated... Yep, it was the brake. Some how, apparently without Mark touching it, the brake managed to not only turn itself on, but get stuck on as we hit gravel. My first lesson almost started with both me and the instructor face first in gravel. Instead, we turned around and grabbed a different bike. I might just add, we didn't do a safety check on this one. By this stage it didn't matter to me, I was convinced I was going to die.

Finally, it was my turn to become the rider, the one in control! After all the boring theory bits were covered, I was able to take off, straight into a corner. As everyone who has been taught to ride a bike has been told, "look where you want the bike to go" - I am the exception to this rule, so we discovered. I blame years of car driving and counteracting the steering so that you don't go where you are looking for this rare talent I possess. I manage to look right and turn left causing so much confusion to myself that panic ensued forcing my legs to extend and spread infront of the bike. I guess I was using wind resistance as a brake while squealing, because... well, that's how I roll! I managed to keep the bike upright the entire lesson, not from skill, but sheer strength and the ability to stall it at critical times.

Despite my shaky start, I managed to master, (my description, not Mark's) the art of getting on and off the bike, braking, changing gears, steering (in my own way), slow riding and some slightly faster riding. I also have the ability to feel and sense what the bike is doing - they were Mark's words. He also said I was a better rider when I didn't think about what I was doing. This can only mean I'm a natural! By this stage I started to realise the smell coming from my jacket... it wasn't me. I swear, I don't smell like a homeless man, nor do my hands normally smell like a public toilet. I'm not sure if it was the smell, the heat, fatigue, dehydration or a combination of everything, but I started to feel unwell. Luckily, the lesson was over. It was time to head back to base.

Mark has so much confidence in me, he thinks we should do some road time on my next lesson. I think he is getting ahead of himself thinking I will have a second lesson! I will give it a week and see how I feel about it. The end result will be worth it. To be able to jump on my own bike and take off, to get away, to escape, to have freedom. I have no doubt I will return, I just need some time to forget the fact that I had other people's bodily fluids on me.

Today, I started my love affair with riding.

Jessie

Diego

Diego... Where do I start?

This amazing bird came into my life about 4 years ago. He was 11 months old and so full of life and potential. He was everything that you would expect from a blue and gold Macaw, and so much more. He was bred and raised by a wonderful experienced breeder under the guidance of the best bird Vet in Australia. Fed on all the right foods, given all the attention and mind stimulation he required, and handled exactly how a Macaw should be. He was... perfect.

Diego and I didn't have the best start.... All of which was my fault. He was great. He was accepting, non-judging and looking for love, attention and someone to bond with. I, on the other hand, saw a 1kg bird with a HUGE beak and potential to remove my finger. I was later informed he would be more likely to crush my finger into an unrecognisable mess than to remove it. Surprisingly I didn't find this to be comforting at all! I guess the difference between us was that Diego trusted me not to hurt him and I didn't trust him not to hurt me.

After a week of playing with him from the safety of outside the bars of his cage, I became brave enough to handle him. (Read: he forced himself upon me by flying a lap around the shop and landing on me). He didn't know how to "step-up" or any basic training, but he knew to be gentle and he knew how to make us laugh. In the first week, he learnt how to wave, hold hands and swear. Yep, I was a proud mum! He loved the reaction people gave when he dropped the "f" bomb. I must admit, I also loved the shock value of his antics. Diego spent hours talking to people, watching them, playing with his toys, flying around stealing things and dropping them from the roof. If you were unlucky, or in his bad books, you would have something dropped on your head. He had an uncanny knack to line up people he didn't like and drop a "bomb" on them. I'm sure you can imagine the size of the "bomb" a 1kg bird would drop... And saying, "it's good luck" never made it any less humiliating for those who were... blessed.

Slowly but surely, we developed a unique relationship. Diego was eager to please, when it suited him or the reward was worth it... Stubborn little man that he was! He loved rolling onto his back and having his tummy tickled. This trick was a huge hit with the members of his fan club. He also loved being kissed on his head and having raspberries blown on his featherless cheeks. He would try and imitate the kissing noise and shove his head in my face if he wasn't getting enough attention. The noise of blowing raspberries was fascinating to him. He couldn't copy it. He seemed to love the combination of the sensation on his cheek and the sound. He would reply with a high pitched "ohhhHHH"" everytime I did it to him. He used to study my lips to learn how to repeat this noise, I would end up laughing at his attempts and he would get upset and stop trying.

My favourite trick Diego did, no one can take credit for teaching him. He actually taught us. If Diego had no one around him and he thought it was time for some attention, he would hang upside down in his cage and squeal at the top of his lungs, "HELP!" This would send numerous people running to help him, thinking he was stuck. Of course, this rewarded his behaviour and because it was so cute, no one minded. In fact we were all always so relieved that he was fine that we would cuddle him, kiss him and play games with him. This of course was EXACTLY what Diego wanted. The bird with the intelligence of a two year old had out smarted and trained a team of animal experts.

Unfortunately, allowing Diego the freedom of full flight had risks. After flying into windows not once, not twice but three times, the vet finally agreed for his own safety, wing clipping was the best solution. We had decided that when his wing feathers grew back we would give him another chance. This was the biggest mistake we would make.... For five long days we searched, calling his name throughout the extended neighbourhood (undoubtingly annoying everyone within a 10km radius), putting up signs, ringing everyone we knew that might be able to help, hoping, praying, wishing... Diego was returned in very poor condition. It appeared that he was starved and injured. He was immediately rushed off to Brisbane Bird Vet. With the magical touch of BBV, a whole lot of love and support, Diego managed to pull through. He was returned home to be re-habilitated. We thought we were the luckiest people in the world. We thought we had a second chance... Little did we know we were merely bought some time to say good-bye.

Diego was ill for quite some time. He was under constant care by the team at BBV. They were running test after test to try and find out what was wrong with him. He was displaying neurological symptoms and it was suspected that he may have picked up a rare and fatal disease (PDD) from a wild bird or possibly had a tumour or cyst on his brain. We were slowly working out what was wrong with him by eliminating what wasn't wrong with him. Unfortunately Diego continued to decline. He lost his swallow reflex and was being spoon fed hand rearing mix to keep him alive. At this point the decision was made to do an MRI on his brain. Although there isn't a vet in Australia who could read the results of an MRI of a Macaw's brain, Diego's ever caring Vet was communicating with international Vets to make sure this wasn't a problem.

I spent hours trying to comfort Diego. By this stage he was unable to open his eyes or even stand. He didn't immediately know who I was. It took a good hour for him to settle in my arms with his head resting in my hand. I sat on the floor with him like this, gently stroking his back and talking to him. He was being medicated with strong pain killers and antibiotics but nothing seemed to be helping our amazing little man. This was the first time I realised that Diego was giving up his battle. On Wednesday the 29th of September 2010, Diego was taken to have his MRI done. Depite the best efforts of Adrian and the BBV team, despite the fact that he was surrounded by love and hope, despite the fact we (selfishly) wanted him to make it through so very much, Diego never woke up. At the baby age of 3 years old, Diego got his angel wings.

Diego has been sorely missed by all those who knew him. His death hit us all hard, including the beautiful team at BBV who treated him with respect and loved him as much as we did. He will always be remembered as the cheeky, fun loving, mischief maker that he was.

Jessie